this is hard, i know. my dad just passed from lung cancer last june. he opted for everything. you know what? he lasted 2 years longer then he was "supposed to". I don't think it was from the chemo. i think it was his will. he'd say "I'm gonna watch all my grandkids grow up" but for him, he had to do it his way. not a way i think i would've chosen..but i finally had to come to the conclusion that it wasn't my choice. my husband is a physician as well, and we were ignored....hang in there goofy mama....-dl
sorry to hear this Allison.
I don't feel this is the place to be posting about this. You know my family (mom/dad included) read this. I feel like you should have asked their permission on posting this. You may or may not agree with my dad's choice of treatment...just as you did not agree with your mom's decision to have surgery. I may or may not agree with his choice. But it's HIS choice. He is scared of dying and feels desparate. It's too bad that we haven't all been blessed with the "knowing" that you have. My parents bend over backwards for their family. They go out of their way to take care of those they love. They support us in both emotional and material ways. They deserve our love and respect...not the airing of our family "dirt" on a public site. My dad may die. He may die earlier as a result of a choice he makes...whatever that choice is. Only God knows what is best. I am choosing to love and support him for the time he has left....whatever that time may be. He needs my love. He deserves my love. He deserves and needs your love to...no strings attached.
Sounds like some heavy stuff going on for you and your family. Sending you light and love.