Sunday, February 28, 2010
There is this parenting philosophy that I subscribe to called Unconditional Parenting. It's based on this book by Alfie Kohn where the idea is to NOT use punishment OR positive reinforcement with our children, but to love them unconditionally. What? A parenting style WITHOUT positive reinforcement or praise? Well, the thought is that positive reinforcement teaches children that they are loved, and lovable, only when they do whatever we decide is a “good job.”
Here, read this article real quick, and then come back here to rejoin my discussion.
Done? That was a good article, right?
So, anyway, that is what I've always tried to practice with my children.
But, it occurred to me recently, after reading my sister's comment to my Douche Bag post, that I am not practicing unconditional love with my mother.
It got me to thinking about Jesus and how He loves each and every one of us unconditionally. Would He be there for someone when they are having an abortion? You bet to high heaven He would be. He would be there holding your hand, giving of Himself, like He has done for all of us time and time again. Jesus would be there for us in every way, at any time that we need Him.
So, that is what I should do for my mother. I should be like Jesus and I be there for her unconditionally. I should be there for her when she has her (figurative) abortion / gallbladder surgery. It's the least I can do. At least I don't have to go die on a cross or anything.
I have learned a couple of lessons in boundaries in having this blog so far, which normal people probably would have realized from the beginning:
1) It's mean to call someone a douche bag.
2) Certain people's husbands might not want them writing about what type of lubrication they're using when they're having sex. I'm just saying.