What kind of birth control do you use (when not breastfeeding)?
We use Natural Family Planning... always have, probably always will. Vern and I have been having sex for almost 11 years now, and haven't ever gotten pregnant when we didn't want to be.
So, obviously, if you know me... I'm a naturalist in all areas of life, so the birth control pill is quite an idiotic thing to take, in my opinion.
On May 10, somebody posted on facebook how it was the 50th anniversary of the birth control pill. And they were all, like, happy for the revolution women were taking over their reproductive lives. And, meanwhile, I'm thinking... but the birth control pill has done nothing but taken women further away from knowing their reproductive cycles. Birth control pills are artificial hormones. They're a medication. They are NOT GOOD FOR YOUR BODY. And women aren't even batting an eye at it anymore because it has somehow become normalized in our society to take something that prevents our bodies from operating the way they should. What the frick? And now, there is even that new birth control pill out there where a woman will only get her period once a year. ONCE A YEAR, PEOPLE! I mean, isn't that taking women further away from their women-ness rather than empowering them toward it? I think we need a new revolution.
What would empower women is to get to KNOW their fertility. A must read for every women would be the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. It tells you everything you need to know.
Another, more natural, way to approach fertility would be to use the Fertility Awareness Method to detect when you're fertile, and, if you are, use a condom during the fertile times, and nothing when you're not (but don't use coconut oil with a condom... that's a no-no). I have never used a condom in my life, nor do I want to. It just doesn't seem appealing to me. So, what we do, is we just abstain from sex during the days of the month when I am fertile.
Things like IUDs give me the heebie-jeebies. I don't like having weird things stuck up inside my private parts.
So, yeah, Natural Family Planning is what we do and it has worked well for us.