Okay. Time to start answering some of the questions. Here they are, in no particular order:
If you were pregnant for the 2nd time and planning a VBAC, where would you go for care? It is illegal to homebirth in the state I live in.
Have you heard of ICAN? (International Cesarean Awareness Network)
I think one of the first things I would do would be to contact them and get information from them. Get resources for VBAC friendly places to birth in the state that you live in.
Personally, I would do everything I could to find a homebirth midwife (even if they happen to be illegal in the state that you live in, because some midwives still practice even though it is illegal). I would get on the Mothering.com forums and ask around there. If I lived close enough to Tennessee, I might consider driving to Ina May's farm. Or maybe going to a birth center (and driving out of state if I had to).
What state do you live in? (I'm assuming it's either Alabama, Georgia, Hawaii, Illinois, Indiana, Iowa, Kentucky, Maryland, North Carolina, South Dakota or Wyoming.) Maybe I could help you with some contacts/information.
How do you feel about trying different things to conceive either a boy or girl (positions, ovulation timing, etc)? Ethical? Or messing with destiny?
I have no problems with with it and I don't view it as unethical. It's just an educated part of knowing how reproduction works. Totally not a big deal to me.
What would you do if you were part of a mom's group... let's say a homeschool group and you really had an issue with one of the other moms... let's she had VERY different parenting ways along with other red flags, what would you do?
A. Stay in the group and make nicey, nicey with her?
B. Tell her how much you want her to stop talking?
C. Leave the group and all of the other amazing people in it because you can't get past how
annoyed you get in her presence?
D. None of the above? Then what?
Also, how would you handle it if things in the group were moving towards a homeschool co-op and you didn't feel comfortable leaving your kids with said other mom? How would you go about this within a small group of homeschooling families? I look forward to your answer to this VERY hypothetical question. :0)
I don't really like confrontation, so I think I would do Option A, and just kind of ignore it as best as I could. But as far as having to leave my kids with her, I wouldn't want to do that. So, that would be a tough situation, especially if all the other members of the co-op were okay with it. Maybe I would leave the group because of that. That's just me though, and I'm kind of a weenie in situations like that.
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VBACer ... I live in Omaha, NE. We have a mutual friend in Holly (she's how I found your site) and I've vented to her recently. We have considered driving out of state to a birth center, but I wouldn't know which direction to go. I am with, possibly, the best natural birth, VBAC OB in the state, but that means a hospital.
The birth community here is full of gossip. ICAN might not be as bad, but I've gone to an ICAN meeting and all the women were angry about their c-sections. I'm not. My twins were born at 38w3d. Reason for C was discord (7lb9oz and 5lb5oz). I'm ok with that. They were both ok, we came home in record time, all was good. The only thing negative about the experience was the hospital and their policies.
I'm not closed to options, just frustrated. As I reread that it feels negative.
There is one HB MW in town and she (from what I've heard through the gossip mill - that I hate so much) has an incredible god complex. The general opinion is that she is a birth waiting to go wrong. I don't want that to be us.
Driving to a birth center is sounding better and better - which direction do I go?
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