About six months ago, I took Peace in for a consultation with birth psychologist, William Emerson.
I took her in because I felt like I was having a little difficulty in connecting with her and I didn't know why. William Emerson specializes in healing birth trauma. And, even though Peace had a lovely little natural birth, I still felt like he could do something to help us (everybody probably has a little birth trauma, no matter how natural the birth). I lovingly refer to him as a "baby whisperer" because he seems to be able to communicate with infants in a way like no other.
Like, one of the things he said that Peace was feeling was, "I thought the birth would be easy, and I was disappointed when it wasn't." HELLO? That was exactly how I was feeling about the birth. Coincidence that he should say that? I think not.
Another thing: He asked me, "At what times do you spend looking into each others eyes during the day?" And I think I said something like, "Oh, when we're nursing," or something like that. But what I was really thinking was, Oh, crap. I've been forgetting to look into her eyes. Because, after all the things that I was remembering to do (like changing her, carrying her, nursing her, comforting her, taking care of my other kids, cooking, cleaning, diapers, etc.), I had FORGOTTEN ABOUT LOOKING INTO HER EYES! Ah!
And he can basically tell what kind of birth a person had (young or old) just by looking at them. He's fascinating. (I want to learn how to do what he does someday.)
So, basically, almost immediately after our consultation, Peace and I started connecting more than we ever had before. And then she started riding well in the car. Yes, after crying every time she went in the car from birth to 5 months, she stopped within a couple of weeks after our consultation with Emerson. Coincidence? I think not.
Now, tomorrow, Emerson is back in town (he is from Seattle and comes to Minneapolis every six months or so) and I have a consultation set up for Ocean. With Ocean, I definitely feel that she has some birth trauma issues that need to be resolved. The midwife lost her heart tones right before I pushed her out, and she ended up having the cord wrapped tightly around her neck three times.
So, what I've been noticing with her now is that she is afraid to make mistakes. She is afraid of doing the wrong thing. It's like something is holding her back from expressing herself fully. I'm hoping our visit with William Emerson tomorrow will help her with this. I will let you know how it goes.
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How much do these visits cost? My first one had a hard birth/abuse from the hospital staff and she has had issues from day one. :(
It costs $150 for a one hour consult, and it is worth every penny. I highly, highly, highly recommend it. Visit http://www.tenmoonsrising.org/ for info on when he will be coming to town next. It's usually every six months, so he will probably be back again in October or November. He is all booked up for his consults this visit.
This is absolutely fascinating. It is something I have been wanting to do for myself and my oldest daughter. Maybe even my youngest, too!
Ocean is probably nervous about making mistakes because of the way you smack her upside the head every time she does and how you are constantly monitoring her and critiquing her every move. Sheesh! Lighten up, will ya!
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