You all probably haven't been keeping up with this, but in the comment section of what I thought was an innocuous post titled Do Nothing, somebody has taken issue with me (once again).
Here's an excerpt:
It's amazing how many parents I already know that have this "Do Nothing" phyilosophy (sic) about their kids and parenting. These are the parents that collect a welfare check every month, their kids don't have decent hygiene because there isn't anyone holding them responsible for it, and these are the kids that get labeled as "special ed" because they (and their parents) have never expected them to do anything more than what they feel like doing. Imagine more of the world that could be opened up for these children if there was someone giving them priorities, responsibilities, and goals to reach--helping to make them well-rounded individuals. It doesn't need to be "helicopter parenting", it just needs to be parenting. By doing nothing and letting children explore life and it's milestones on their own, they ARE being limited. They may not even realize the possibilites (sic) out there that they would truly enjoy and thrive at doing. As parents, it is our job to not sit back totally, but to take an active role so that our children can strive, meet their fullest potentional (sic), enjoy life, and also be happy.
And also:
You're not limiting them now. Just when they are adults with little to no education and have limited opportunities to get a job that pays over minimum wage.
What the heck? All I was doing was making what I viewed as an insightful thought relating to MY life. I was in no way judging other people or what they were doing. Remember... I'm trying really hard not to care what other people are doing!
And this was the reason I stopped writing for awhile... because I wanted to avoid all this bad mojo from people. I don't want all this negativity. I want to fill the world with love and peace and unicorns and rainbows.
So, it has come to this...
I am removing the feature from the comment section that allows people to comment anonymously. I know, I know, this should have been done a long time ago. But I thought by having it there, it gave greater access for people to post more easily. (Now, some of you may not be able to post at all without this feature). And, also, I did enjoy the following of my ALL-CAPS ANONYMOUS poster. He was lovely, whoever he was (I never did figure that out).
So, goodbye, all of you anonymous-es out there. This is for the best. I'm going to keep the rainbows and unicorns dancing in my head. Please direct all of your negative energy elsewhere. Thank you.
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6 comments:
I follow your blog. I love reading it. I do not always agree, well most always I do, more so that some things I agree-almost. But anyways. People reading this are those who want to post nasty comments and people who gossip behind backs, say they are good christians but don't go to church, SEE I CAN GENERALIZE TOO! ;) point being people are reading some of your posts for face value and are not truelly hearing what you are saying and then running with it just so they can let out some stress and bitch at someone. Sorry it has to be you, I enjoy reading your blog. Hopefully someday those people will think past their first instinct and just get it. That you dont have to get it. It just is. ANd that is freakin OK!
Good for you! People who do that drive-by drama are bullies...
Yeah! I love your blog...it's one of very few that I read on a regular basis. And I'm sorry I engaged with the unknown anonymous writer. I just can't figure out why they read a blog that they totally disagree with anyway?? And to take the time to attack you and the way you choose to live your life on YOUR blog seems insane! I tried sticking up for you (because I agreed with your point). But to do so against someone that hides behind their anonymous shield I realize now that it was a ridiculous attempt.
I'll bite my cyber tongue in the future.
Sending you thoughts filled with rainbows and unicorns.
I really love your blog and I wish you happy thoughts but I have to say one thing. I didn't feel like anonymous was bullying or attacking you he was just looking out for your children's future.
A good choice Goofy Mama! When people put their names on something, they will be much more careful of its tone and quality.
Everyone gets a little hyper when it comes to how children should be raised. Of course. What I love about this blog is it makes "mainstream" people (like me) think about the options and alternatives. Most people want their kids to learn certain things so they can get into college and get a degree that will give them the opportunity for a good job with a good salary, whether the kid really likes that plan at first or not. Your vision is a little different. Keep writing about it, I think it's a good topic.
I'd really like to see you have a conversation with with Tiger Mom!
I really should comment more often! I really love your blog and follow it when I can. I respect all the things you write about even if I don't identify with all of them. Keep it coming, share your thoughts, and do it knowing that mean people suck, but at least they can't suck anonymously now!
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